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3 Reasons Marriage is good for you

What separates bad marriages from badass marriages?
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What do you do to keep the spice in your marriage?


Dating is something you only have to do when you’re single. Thank goodness.


False. Research shows that when couples spend time dating, their levels of happiness, positive communication and sexual satisfaction are more than three times higher than those who don’t spend time dating. So go out and have fun. The movie on your laptop will still be there when you get back.

Quick, date your spouse before someone else does!


When kids see their parents getting amorous, they should cheer, not groan.


True. If you have little ones, or might some day, a happy marriage is the best gift you could ever give them. Studies show that when your marriage is strong your kids are more likely to be physically and emotionally healthy. They’re more likely to go to college. And they’re less likely to use drugs or alcohol, commit delinquent behaviors, or become a teen parent. They’re even less likely to get divorced themselves.


The love you had when you got married is all the love you need.


False. Even if you were madly in love on your wedding day, strong and successful marriages take consistent work and love. The good news is that this work includes frequent vacations, lots of flirting and dinner together at cool restaurants where the waitresses all have cool haircuts.

Aww, that’s so sweet and romantic and stupid.



Now that you’re married your bedroom is used only for sleeping and folding clothes.


False. Your bedroom is a magical place and don’t you forget it. Married people report higher levels of sexual satisfaction than sexually active singles and cohabiting couples. In fact, a married woman is more likely to describe sex as emotionally and physically satisfying, than single women with sex partners. The same goes for the men. It seems your commitment to one another through marriage creates a greater sense of trust and security, with a pleasant side effect being great sex.


Marriage ages about as gracefully as discounted plastic surgery.


False. If you could talk to a time traveler, they’d say the future is bright for married people. That’s because marriage pays huge dividends for your health and your finances. Research shows the longer you’re happily married the lower your risk of developing health conditions like diabetes, cancer, heart attack, and stroke. You’re also more likely to have a higher net worth. So be optimistic.

You’re somehow going to become even more awesome.

  • Why Marriage Matters, Thirty Conclusions From the Social Sciences, Center for Marriage and Families at the Institute for American Values and the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, 2011
  • Christensen and Patterson, “New Research,” The Family in America, Fall 2009, Vol. 23 Number 3. Study: Matthew E. Dupre and Sarah O. Meadows, “Disaggregating the Effects of Marital Trajectories on Health,” Journal of Family Issues 28 [May 2007]: 623–52.


Good marriages aren’t just good luck. There’s stuff you can do that can make a huge difference. So if you’re already doing it, keep it up. And if you’re not, it’s not too late to get started. Your marriage has a lot of potential. What you do with it is up to you.

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“Always make the effort to not let things get stale.”


“Have sex!”


“Plan surprises for each other.”


“Pour into your marriage what’s going to bring life, vibrancy and laughter.”


“Never let the spice leave.”